The Philosopher
John Gray
The face
The background
- Nationality:
- English
- Schools:
- Analytic philosophy
- Period:
- Contemporary philosophy
The synopsis
The works
The quotes
Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed. Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.
The process of learning requires not only hearing and applying but also forgetting and then remembering again.
Generally speaking, when a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to help a man, she has no idea of how critical and unloving he may sound to him.
A women under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood.
To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.
All men and women have an equal need for love. When these needs are not fulfilled it is easy to have our feelings hurt, for which we blame our partner.
When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.
Just as women are afraid of receiving, men are afraid of giving.